Originated from the Sigma Sigma Sigma Sorority in 2014. It was a session detailing how to handle and start fierce conversations. And more importantly, how you identify yourself.
The speakers were Stacey Jaska, and Rachelle Stawinski. They were both impassioned speakers that spoke into and challenged you. The session’s goal was to tech us how to stop avoiding uncomfortable or difficult situations and become a master at being able to have meaningful conversations. Teaching us how to receive a beneficial outcome while keeping in mind how identity plays a role in how the argument is shaped. It also plays a role in our success as an effective communicator. They taught us everyone can own the truth.
“A Fierce Conversation is simply…
One in which we come out from behind ourselves into the conversation and make it real.”
7 Principle of Fierce Conversations:
- Master the courage to interrogate reality (always more than one side).
- Come out from behind yourself into the conversation and make it real (listen, don’t hide, learn and understand).
- Be here, prepared to be nowhere else.
- Tackle your toughest challenge today (one problem).
- Obey your instincts.
- Take responsibility for your emotional wake.
- Let silence do the heavy lifting (it is golden).
I keep the packet containing these 7 principles on the shelf at the foot of by bed. I read and reread them all the time. They have helped me have difficult conversations and learn to deal with harsh matters. This session was the most important one for me and for my leadership education.